Today was a day long hoped-for, and even more hoped for since the end of June: M.A.E. and Moptop have moved into their own place! They have an apartment in town, with an easy stroll to a supermarket and the convenience store (gotta suck those butts, yup yup). There are a couple of questions I haven’t worked up the nerve to ask — I don’t want to be a wet blanket — which are:1) How is M.A.E. getting to work?
2) Where is Moptop going to stay while M.A.E. is at work?
But hey, let’s not focus on the negative here. Abba House, a more-or-less local women’s support charity, gave her a bunch of furniture for the apartment. I think we had a piece or two we sent along, and we certainly made sure they have some basic necessities (toilet paper, wash cloths, etc.). 9th District Opportunity is helping with the first month’s rent, a church org is doing some other stuff. I really have to hand it to M.A.E. — she got on the phone and made most of this stuff happen, then she got herself a job (yeah, Burger King, but like I said this isn’t a post for negatives). It’s a big step — a lot of people have said, even to her face, that she would never be able to live on her own… and now she’s not only doing it, she’s supporting a kid.
As long as she lived with us, this is almost like watching one of my own kids spread her wings. Now if we can push Snippet and DoubleRed out of the next, we’ll be set!
Sounds like she's pretty motivated, and even if her choices aren't top-of-the-line, she'll probably do just fine. If you're able to let her know that she can count on you, should she need a hand, that would probably be very much appreciated.
ReplyDeleteMAE is my daughter's middle name :). Spelled just like that, even
Heh, I think that's how my mom's middle name is spelled too. But in M.A.E.'s case, it's an abbreviation. See the comments in this post (from Oct. 2005) for the origin.
ReplyDeleteYes, she knows we'll be there for her if needed. We'll probably be seeing a fair amount of each other for a while.
It's an amazing step in the right direction. The accomplishment of getting out on your own and being the person that made everything come to together is a shot in the arm for self confidence and a good indicator that while today it's just Burger King tomorrow it's something better paying with better hours and better benefits.
ReplyDeleteHi Survival Mama, welcome to the free-range insane asylum! I have to agree, with a steady job and a few friends to help out, M.A.E. will make it and do well enough. She was so knotted up over her BF cheating on her, but it's what gave her that final push to get out and be her own person. So in a back-handed sort of way (several people would like to backhand him), he also helped her.
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